I'm a Gleek. Have been since the very beginning. I saw the preview fall episode and fell in love instantly. Waited oh so impatiently for the series to actually start and haven't missed an episode since. I understand what Glee actually is and what it's all about. It seems as the series progresses some people (mainly ADULTS) who either didn't get the point of it from the beginning, or those just recently tuning in are in SHOCK at the adult themes being portrayed, and therefore are outraged that they've been letting their children watch such a show!
Here's the deal people. Glee has always been pushing boundaries. Um, hello? Have you been WATCHING the show, or are you simply mesmerized by the musical acts?? Glee isn't a show for small kids. It has themes of infidelity, alcohol and drug abuse, bullying, sex, lies....in short...it's about HIGH SCHOOL. Sorry to break it to you parents, but that's what High School is. And unless you're willing to (God forbid!) have a CONVERSATION about the adult themes to your middle schooler (or even high schooler) then DUH-you as a parent shouldn't let them watch it.
Also, please understand that the creator of this show is the guy who brought you Nip/Tuck....
In short, parents, please be...I don't know...PARENTS and think about what you've been letting your kids watch for the past season and a half....did the musical numbers blind you to the fact that there was a teen pregnancy? There's gay/lesbian themes? Or the drug use that has happened?
If the themes won't go over your child's head...and you don't want to have an actual conversation about what's happening...then yeah, idiot, your kid shouldn't be watching this show.
Thank you,
Jackie-avid Gleek
Wednesday, November 10
Friday, October 8
OMG You're Dating her EX?!
Seriously. I am getting really tired of the whole, "OMG You're dating her EX?!" or "You're dating MY EX?!" bit from girls. Everyone has a freakin' ex.....stop saying that she wants your leftovers or she's a whore or whatever it is you say to mask the fact that you're not over him.
I'll be honest, I have said that in my life, so I can't claim to be perfect. However, I said it once when I was 16 and my then boyfriend had left me FOR another girl. Now, yes...having your guy leave you for another girl is devastating. However, it's not fair (or mature) to play both sides of it. It also isn't fair (or mature) to break up (or be broken up with) your guy and then when he gets a new girlfriend be all up in her beeswax trash talking to your friends that you used to talk to her and how much of a whore she is for dating your EX.
You can't run around saying, "he's an asshole and I hate him and he never treated me right and blah blah blah" and then in the same breath bitch and moan about his new girl is breaking some sort of stupid "code" by dating your ex. Do you SEE the oxymoron?? If he's an asshole that never treated you right, why are you complaining about his new chick? Cry into a few pillows, get your ass in shape, start feeling good about yourself, GET OVER HIM, and move on to something better for you....there's a process of grieving, but don't take that out on the new girl...whatever happened in your relationship with your guy is between you and him...and you need to realize that. Why drag some other chick in who honestly you shouldn't even give two thoughts about? It shows incredible lack of self esteem and self respect to go on and on about it in that manner, to be honest.
Like I said before, I threw a fit when I was 16. SIXTEEN, girls......I was a teenager and it was my first love and things were so dramatic back then.
If you have an issue with it...here's a novel idea...actually talk to his new girl about the situation. Tell her how you feel and have an open dialog if that's what you need to move on. But once you've talked to her, move on.
If you don't have the thought process to talk to the actual person you keep running your mouth about here's the next best thing:
You're a grown ass woman, or at least is says so on your licence, so why don't you be a REAL woman and actually GET OVER IT, MOVE ON and wish them the best of luck. Holding onto all that negativity just makes you ugly...and you don't want to be ugly AND the crazy ex do you?
Best of luck to all MY ex's in their future relationships!
I'll be honest, I have said that in my life, so I can't claim to be perfect. However, I said it once when I was 16 and my then boyfriend had left me FOR another girl. Now, yes...having your guy leave you for another girl is devastating. However, it's not fair (or mature) to play both sides of it. It also isn't fair (or mature) to break up (or be broken up with) your guy and then when he gets a new girlfriend be all up in her beeswax trash talking to your friends that you used to talk to her and how much of a whore she is for dating your EX.
You can't run around saying, "he's an asshole and I hate him and he never treated me right and blah blah blah" and then in the same breath bitch and moan about his new girl is breaking some sort of stupid "code" by dating your ex. Do you SEE the oxymoron?? If he's an asshole that never treated you right, why are you complaining about his new chick? Cry into a few pillows, get your ass in shape, start feeling good about yourself, GET OVER HIM, and move on to something better for you....there's a process of grieving, but don't take that out on the new girl...whatever happened in your relationship with your guy is between you and him...and you need to realize that. Why drag some other chick in who honestly you shouldn't even give two thoughts about? It shows incredible lack of self esteem and self respect to go on and on about it in that manner, to be honest.
Like I said before, I threw a fit when I was 16. SIXTEEN, girls......I was a teenager and it was my first love and things were so dramatic back then.
If you have an issue with it...here's a novel idea...actually talk to his new girl about the situation. Tell her how you feel and have an open dialog if that's what you need to move on. But once you've talked to her, move on.
If you don't have the thought process to talk to the actual person you keep running your mouth about here's the next best thing:
You're a grown ass woman, or at least is says so on your licence, so why don't you be a REAL woman and actually GET OVER IT, MOVE ON and wish them the best of luck. Holding onto all that negativity just makes you ugly...and you don't want to be ugly AND the crazy ex do you?
Best of luck to all MY ex's in their future relationships!
Thursday, July 1
time goes by
more and more it seems like everyone my age is getting married. yes, i am aware that i am not the only one still not married, but it feels like it some days. Sydney got married right out of high school. Sierra followed two years later. then Nicole a few months after that. Shelby just got married. a bunch of other kids i went to school with are engaged or married. the part of me that still feels that high school need to fit in with them all wants desperately to be married.
if you know me at all, you know i am a hopeless romantic who day dreams about getting my very own Disney fairytale ending. i've never given up hope on this dream, even through all the drama that marraige has caused me. well, i gave up once. for about a week. then realized i am who i am and that's a princess who will get her ending. so whatever.
i can't help but want that ending now. even though if the reasonable part of me knows i don't want that right now. i still print pictures out, doodle on notepads, and put them, and my ideas, in my secret dream wedding folder. a little crazy, yes. but again, whatever.
i've had one oppourtunity to get married. the question was never asked, but i could have minipulated the situation to get married. but at that time, i didn't want to get married. i don't know if it was that no one else was, or that i knew i wasn't ready.
now that everyone else is i'm seeing it could have been a symptom of wanting to be part of the cool kids club. i'm old enough to see that. and i'm wise enough to know better than to run off and get married because everyone is doing it. i've also learned patience. i often i feel i wasted 5 years of my life on the wrong guys, and now i feel like i've met the one...and i have to wait. it seems unfair. at the same time. i know it's the right thing to do. i want to get married yes, but more than that...i want to be so madly in love with my husband that nothing can tear us apart. no football game, no sale on clothes, no woman, no man, no nothing. i know that takes time, dedication, and of course, love.
so time goes by. and i'll just sit and wait. perfect the craft of love and add notes, clippings, and dreams into my folder. it may take a few years, but i know when i'm 80 i'll look back and say, it was worth the wait.
if you know me at all, you know i am a hopeless romantic who day dreams about getting my very own Disney fairytale ending. i've never given up hope on this dream, even through all the drama that marraige has caused me. well, i gave up once. for about a week. then realized i am who i am and that's a princess who will get her ending. so whatever.
i can't help but want that ending now. even though if the reasonable part of me knows i don't want that right now. i still print pictures out, doodle on notepads, and put them, and my ideas, in my secret dream wedding folder. a little crazy, yes. but again, whatever.
i've had one oppourtunity to get married. the question was never asked, but i could have minipulated the situation to get married. but at that time, i didn't want to get married. i don't know if it was that no one else was, or that i knew i wasn't ready.
now that everyone else is i'm seeing it could have been a symptom of wanting to be part of the cool kids club. i'm old enough to see that. and i'm wise enough to know better than to run off and get married because everyone is doing it. i've also learned patience. i often i feel i wasted 5 years of my life on the wrong guys, and now i feel like i've met the one...and i have to wait. it seems unfair. at the same time. i know it's the right thing to do. i want to get married yes, but more than that...i want to be so madly in love with my husband that nothing can tear us apart. no football game, no sale on clothes, no woman, no man, no nothing. i know that takes time, dedication, and of course, love.
so time goes by. and i'll just sit and wait. perfect the craft of love and add notes, clippings, and dreams into my folder. it may take a few years, but i know when i'm 80 i'll look back and say, it was worth the wait.
Friday, March 12
you're skinny therefore i hate you.
so recently i put up a picture on Facebook of myself with curled hair. i got a few outside comments, as well as one FB comment that i looked 'scary skinny'. now, these comments weren't from distant people, they were from people i hold near and dear to my heart...so of course, it hit me hard. although, the comments were that the angle and the fact that i was wearing black made it look like i was scary skinny, i cried. i felt so embarrassed. here i had thought, this is a cute picture of my new curled hair, all the meanwhile others were thinking, ew look at her stomach, it's freakishly small! well, after a cry, and a reassuring "it was just the angle, you aren't scary skinny! and you don't have any kind of eating disorder anyone needs to be worried about! you have a box of krispy kreme donuts on your lap for crying out loud!" from JT i dried my tears and realized i don't have an issue, i am skinny because that's just they way i am-i shouldn't feel embarrassed about it. however, i got to thinking about my weight and how others perceive me.
now, i am no stranger to people calling me skinny. especially, in a rude or negative matter. in fact, i've heard it since i was in middle school. it never bothered me because i was skinny. i was like a little boy-no curves or shape whatsoever. however, in high school, my body grew and i wasn't just skinny anymore, i was more slender with curves than anything else. and i always heard the phrase: "you're so skinny...ugh i hate you". i would normally just take it as a compliment smile, say nothing, and move on. however, i keep hearing that same phrase even into adulthood... "you're so skinny...ugh i hate you"-not always that phrase, but basically that same idea-and it got me thinking...you're not complimenting my shape, you're trying to tear me down because you have some issue with yourself.
so that probably sounds self-centered, but even begin to think that. i have my own body issues and am aware of them.
moving on. i have taken the bullshit for too long. i am no longer going to stand there while you belittle me and make me feel gross because you have some issue with yourself. i am slender, yes. i eat cookies, chips, and whatever i want, when i want, and haven't gained a pound in the last few years, however, that doesn't give you the right to try and tear me down. if you're going to compliment me, do so. if you're going to be mean about my weight, don't even bother bringing it up. the next person who tells me that they hate me because i am skinny, i am going to look them in the eye and say-i am skinny because i am-don't hate me for it, because it hurts my feelings and makes you look stupid all at the same time.
and on another note, i would LOVE to take some of the fat off of your ass and put it directly onto my own body. trust me. i know i could use a few extra pounds, i'm not blind or stupid. however, i don't go around saying, oh my goodness you have a huge ass-i wish i could have a huge ass, too! i wouldn't say that because it's rude and completely unnecessary.
at any rate, the next time you tell someone you hate them because of their body, why don't you grow a pair and either say what you really feel, or better yet...deal with your own damn issues before taking them out on me. i don't need them. i have my own.
thanks.
now, i am no stranger to people calling me skinny. especially, in a rude or negative matter. in fact, i've heard it since i was in middle school. it never bothered me because i was skinny. i was like a little boy-no curves or shape whatsoever. however, in high school, my body grew and i wasn't just skinny anymore, i was more slender with curves than anything else. and i always heard the phrase: "you're so skinny...ugh i hate you". i would normally just take it as a compliment smile, say nothing, and move on. however, i keep hearing that same phrase even into adulthood... "you're so skinny...ugh i hate you"-not always that phrase, but basically that same idea-and it got me thinking...you're not complimenting my shape, you're trying to tear me down because you have some issue with yourself.
so that probably sounds self-centered, but even begin to think that. i have my own body issues and am aware of them.
moving on. i have taken the bullshit for too long. i am no longer going to stand there while you belittle me and make me feel gross because you have some issue with yourself. i am slender, yes. i eat cookies, chips, and whatever i want, when i want, and haven't gained a pound in the last few years, however, that doesn't give you the right to try and tear me down. if you're going to compliment me, do so. if you're going to be mean about my weight, don't even bother bringing it up. the next person who tells me that they hate me because i am skinny, i am going to look them in the eye and say-i am skinny because i am-don't hate me for it, because it hurts my feelings and makes you look stupid all at the same time.
and on another note, i would LOVE to take some of the fat off of your ass and put it directly onto my own body. trust me. i know i could use a few extra pounds, i'm not blind or stupid. however, i don't go around saying, oh my goodness you have a huge ass-i wish i could have a huge ass, too! i wouldn't say that because it's rude and completely unnecessary.
at any rate, the next time you tell someone you hate them because of their body, why don't you grow a pair and either say what you really feel, or better yet...deal with your own damn issues before taking them out on me. i don't need them. i have my own.
thanks.
Tuesday, February 23
single vs. not
most people who know me, know that i am more of a relationship person than a date around/single person. it's just who i am. it's always who i've been. when i was little i didn't dream about dating different guys or being single...i dreamed about being in love. this, i am sure, is a result of being left alone to watch too many Disney movies as a child. which to be honest, isn't a bad way to live my life. it keeps me positive and keeps me motivated to be the best I can be for that special someone, as well as myself.
in the last 6 years, i have been single for a total of...three months. i began a relationship at 16 with someone, and it took me a whole 2 1/2 years to figure out he wasn't the "one". then I promptly got into another relationship that lasted another 2 years. obviously that didn't work either. after i broke it off with the last guy, i thought to myself...what do I want?...who am I? i felt like, i needed to be single to know who I am. so...that's what i was. i was SINGLE and ready to mingle-not in the slutty sleep around way either...just ready to flirt and be care free about it.
so i was single for a while and flirted with a few guys and weighed my options of potential boyfriends but none were really wanting a relationship, and i wasn't willing to compromise my own values to just be "that girl who you sleep with". i even went as far as almost becoming "that girl" but thank God to high heaven, i ended up not going through with it. i really would have kicked myself in the butt had i brought myself down to that level of such low standards.
then it hit me.
i know who i am. i don't need to be single to know that. i am a strong independent woman who knows what she wants in life, and relationships (romantic and otherwise). i like to be in a relationship, and there is NOTHING wrong with that...i am monogamous and trustworthy and honest and true to myself and my partner. i'm not "cheating" myself out of my own worth, nor am i "cheating" someone else out of their worth...i am an awesome woman who will not be taken advantage of. if you want to be with me...BE WITH ME...don't wimp out and say that you're not ready for a commitment. if you're not ready for commitment, then you're not ready, and certainly do not deserve me in any form other than a friendship.
i am extremely blessed to have a man in my life who chose to show, through his actions, that i have worth by being in a committed relationship with me. boyfriend/girlfriend. not dating...not seeing each other...but official boyfriend/girlfriend. i value that in him, and knowing that it would be easier to walk away and just "date" me or just "see" me and not be committed fully to me for him and his situation means a lot to me and i don't take his commitment lightly, nor do i take it for granted.
now. there are some people in this world. a lot of people, actually, who i feel sell themselves short when it comes to being romantically involved with someone. take for instance my favorite guilty pleasure...Sex and The City. i love that show, i do. however, the choices the women make on the show are not anything i would wish for me OR my friends. the closest character i relate to is Charlotte-she wants to find someone she can connect with, not just have sex with and feel the complications of not being honest and good to yourself (Samantha). Although, Charlotte makes mistakes, as we all do, she has a basic set of morals and values she's just not willing to let go of.
i often see/hear that single people have the anthem of "i don't need a man to make me happy", "no man can complete me", "i am my own person and don't need to be in a relationship to be happy", "you're the idiot because you're in a relationship", etc. yet they have a man in their life, it's just not "official" or "exclusive". well, to that i say...i'm sad for you and praying for you. your morals and values need to be reevaluated if you honestly are going to sell yourself short and give away your body to someone who doesn't have big enough balls to just jump in and say YOU'RE WORTH IT. and you're allowing the other person to sell themselves short, too. which is not fair to either party and eventually will catch up with the both of you.
i am in an extremely awesome relationship, with the promise and idea that there is marriage involved. if there wasn't marriage involved, i wouldn't be wasting my time and energy, nor letting my partner waste his time and energy, if i didn't KNOW that things were going to move onto that next and final level of commitment. think about that the next time you drop your pants for the guy your seeing, or even some guy your not seeing....
as Nicki Minaj said in an interview. "Ladies, step your pussy up.....keep your pussy exclusive"
if you really want to be a "strong woman", then don't sell yourself short by being that girl.
and that's what i have to say about that.
in the last 6 years, i have been single for a total of...three months. i began a relationship at 16 with someone, and it took me a whole 2 1/2 years to figure out he wasn't the "one". then I promptly got into another relationship that lasted another 2 years. obviously that didn't work either. after i broke it off with the last guy, i thought to myself...what do I want?...who am I? i felt like, i needed to be single to know who I am. so...that's what i was. i was SINGLE and ready to mingle-not in the slutty sleep around way either...just ready to flirt and be care free about it.
so i was single for a while and flirted with a few guys and weighed my options of potential boyfriends but none were really wanting a relationship, and i wasn't willing to compromise my own values to just be "that girl who you sleep with". i even went as far as almost becoming "that girl" but thank God to high heaven, i ended up not going through with it. i really would have kicked myself in the butt had i brought myself down to that level of such low standards.
then it hit me.
i know who i am. i don't need to be single to know that. i am a strong independent woman who knows what she wants in life, and relationships (romantic and otherwise). i like to be in a relationship, and there is NOTHING wrong with that...i am monogamous and trustworthy and honest and true to myself and my partner. i'm not "cheating" myself out of my own worth, nor am i "cheating" someone else out of their worth...i am an awesome woman who will not be taken advantage of. if you want to be with me...BE WITH ME...don't wimp out and say that you're not ready for a commitment. if you're not ready for commitment, then you're not ready, and certainly do not deserve me in any form other than a friendship.
i am extremely blessed to have a man in my life who chose to show, through his actions, that i have worth by being in a committed relationship with me. boyfriend/girlfriend. not dating...not seeing each other...but official boyfriend/girlfriend. i value that in him, and knowing that it would be easier to walk away and just "date" me or just "see" me and not be committed fully to me for him and his situation means a lot to me and i don't take his commitment lightly, nor do i take it for granted.
now. there are some people in this world. a lot of people, actually, who i feel sell themselves short when it comes to being romantically involved with someone. take for instance my favorite guilty pleasure...Sex and The City. i love that show, i do. however, the choices the women make on the show are not anything i would wish for me OR my friends. the closest character i relate to is Charlotte-she wants to find someone she can connect with, not just have sex with and feel the complications of not being honest and good to yourself (Samantha). Although, Charlotte makes mistakes, as we all do, she has a basic set of morals and values she's just not willing to let go of.
i often see/hear that single people have the anthem of "i don't need a man to make me happy", "no man can complete me", "i am my own person and don't need to be in a relationship to be happy", "you're the idiot because you're in a relationship", etc. yet they have a man in their life, it's just not "official" or "exclusive". well, to that i say...i'm sad for you and praying for you. your morals and values need to be reevaluated if you honestly are going to sell yourself short and give away your body to someone who doesn't have big enough balls to just jump in and say YOU'RE WORTH IT. and you're allowing the other person to sell themselves short, too. which is not fair to either party and eventually will catch up with the both of you.
i am in an extremely awesome relationship, with the promise and idea that there is marriage involved. if there wasn't marriage involved, i wouldn't be wasting my time and energy, nor letting my partner waste his time and energy, if i didn't KNOW that things were going to move onto that next and final level of commitment. think about that the next time you drop your pants for the guy your seeing, or even some guy your not seeing....
as Nicki Minaj said in an interview. "Ladies, step your pussy up.....keep your pussy exclusive"
if you really want to be a "strong woman", then don't sell yourself short by being that girl.
and that's what i have to say about that.
Thursday, January 28
i didn't forget...i've just been busy...
okay...so i've also been lazy when i did have time. but that's kind of who i am.
i wanted to update about my New Years Resolution. i've decided to let it all go. squash any previous drama that i've been holding onto these past few years. now, that doesn't mean i'm going to become every one's best friend, no, not at all. i just want to git rid of the excess and unnecessary baggage that i have. i've already started. i feel good about it...apprehensive at times, but i feel good. my main goal is to at least talk with a certain person and get all our feelings out there...i'm not looking for the issue to be completely resolved, but some sort of communication at least. i hate awkward moments. no, actually i love them. but i hate the awkward moments where people are in the same room and hate each other for no real reason. it's just stupid.
anyway, there you go. i blogged. more later.
and no, i won't be adding CAPS to the beginning of sentences.
i wanted to update about my New Years Resolution. i've decided to let it all go. squash any previous drama that i've been holding onto these past few years. now, that doesn't mean i'm going to become every one's best friend, no, not at all. i just want to git rid of the excess and unnecessary baggage that i have. i've already started. i feel good about it...apprehensive at times, but i feel good. my main goal is to at least talk with a certain person and get all our feelings out there...i'm not looking for the issue to be completely resolved, but some sort of communication at least. i hate awkward moments. no, actually i love them. but i hate the awkward moments where people are in the same room and hate each other for no real reason. it's just stupid.
anyway, there you go. i blogged. more later.
and no, i won't be adding CAPS to the beginning of sentences.
Tuesday, September 29
First Post
I wanted to start writing a blog so I could get my feelings out. I think about a lot of things that I feel I need to get out. A friend told me once it's better to write your thoughts and feelings out on paper (I prefer to type)...So TA-DAH! Here is my blog. Some of my posts will have specific topics and some will be completely random. I will try to post as much of my thoughts on here as I can.
My posts are open for feedback or you can just read them.
That is up to you. I am just here to blog it all.
Word.
My posts are open for feedback or you can just read them.
That is up to you. I am just here to blog it all.
Word.
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