Seriously. I am getting really tired of the whole, "OMG You're dating her EX?!" or "You're dating MY EX?!" bit from girls. Everyone has a freakin' ex.....stop saying that she wants your leftovers or she's a whore or whatever it is you say to mask the fact that you're not over him.
I'll be honest, I have said that in my life, so I can't claim to be perfect. However, I said it once when I was 16 and my then boyfriend had left me FOR another girl. Now, yes...having your guy leave you for another girl is devastating. However, it's not fair (or mature) to play both sides of it. It also isn't fair (or mature) to break up (or be broken up with) your guy and then when he gets a new girlfriend be all up in her beeswax trash talking to your friends that you used to talk to her and how much of a whore she is for dating your EX.
You can't run around saying, "he's an asshole and I hate him and he never treated me right and blah blah blah" and then in the same breath bitch and moan about his new girl is breaking some sort of stupid "code" by dating your ex. Do you SEE the oxymoron?? If he's an asshole that never treated you right, why are you complaining about his new chick? Cry into a few pillows, get your ass in shape, start feeling good about yourself, GET OVER HIM, and move on to something better for you....there's a process of grieving, but don't take that out on the new girl...whatever happened in your relationship with your guy is between you and him...and you need to realize that. Why drag some other chick in who honestly you shouldn't even give two thoughts about? It shows incredible lack of self esteem and self respect to go on and on about it in that manner, to be honest.
Like I said before, I threw a fit when I was 16. SIXTEEN, girls......I was a teenager and it was my first love and things were so dramatic back then.
If you have an issue with it...here's a novel idea...actually talk to his new girl about the situation. Tell her how you feel and have an open dialog if that's what you need to move on. But once you've talked to her, move on.
If you don't have the thought process to talk to the actual person you keep running your mouth about here's the next best thing:
You're a grown ass woman, or at least is says so on your licence, so why don't you be a REAL woman and actually GET OVER IT, MOVE ON and wish them the best of luck. Holding onto all that negativity just makes you ugly...and you don't want to be ugly AND the crazy ex do you?
Best of luck to all MY ex's in their future relationships!
